The Great Balancing Act by Kristen Fagan5:59 PM
|Tree of life belly cast painting by me|
Ways to stay connected as a family
- Discuss your day and your feelings. We turn off the TV during dinner and discuss our day. We also have semi regular family meetings. They are a forum to discuss family issues going on (like the boys insatiable need for snacks) and what things have made them happy, upset or sad. Having time to safely share their feelings has proved to be invaluable.
- Schedule free time. We enjoy parks, museums, visiting friends but, we also enjoy hanging at home. So each weekend we leave some "free time" for us to just be home and with each other. That sometimes means missing out on an event and that's okay.
- Volunteer at school if possible. I visit my son’s first grade class 2x a month on my lunch break and give a 20 minute art history lesson. This is rewarding on many levels, I share my love of art history, I get to know the teacher and students and my son is very happy I am there. There may be something you can do to help that is in line with your time and interests or maybe you can stop in for lunch with your child.
- Maintain a healthy relationship with your husband. My husband and I currently work from home and are lucky to spend lots of time together already however, we still need to maintain a deep connection. Making time to talk about things that interest us (other then the kids) is important. I like to read and he likes to listen to podcasts and we share what we are learning about with one another. We have a special Sunday morning show we always watch together and we share the responsibility of putting the kids to bed early each night giving us each one on one time with the boys. Putting them to bed early allows us some time to ourselves in the evening.
|Me and my son painting together.|
- Take time for creativity. In my situation I am not able to be in my studio every day but, I try to get there once a week and on the days I’m not in the studio I look for ways to enjoy creative time with my children such as drawing, playing with dough, music, dancing and reading. All those little moments support me as a whole artist. If you are serious about putting time in your studio pick a schedule for yourself that works with your life, not against it, and get into a routine. Also regularly evaluate where your time is going and see what adjustments can be made.
- Make your workspace work for you. You have to have a creative space that works. For me, I have to be at home but, in my own space. My garage has served this purpose well. I go out there in the evenings when the kids wind down and are playing quietly (and my husband is home) or I go out there on weekends and bring my kids with me. They have an easel setup right next to mine so, that we can create together. Lastly, try to keep your workspace neat. My studio isn't always in tip top shape which okay but, when it's a big old mess I don't want to go out there.
- Have a secret weapon. My secret weapon is my husband. He is a tremendous help with household chores and cooking. If it wasn't for his help I wouldn't have the energy to do half of what I am able to accomplish. Having someone there to support you in whatever shape that means to you is invaluable. It could be your sister, an artist friend you can relate too or maybe it's a spiritual guide or simply a cup of coffee that gets you going. Your secret weapon could be just about anything.
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